tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722472542404525075.post2431298446477313805..comments2022-03-27T00:31:15.504-05:00Comments on Gay Married in the Midwest: Am I gay?Not Alonehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10482405719386603047noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722472542404525075.post-74600368452144945402011-12-07T16:13:18.858-06:002011-12-07T16:13:18.858-06:00I can only speak for me but I was married for thir...I can only speak for me but I was married for thirty years and raised five great kids and now that I am divorced and "out" I know that I was gay all along. I just called myself by other names. I'm sure if I were growing up today, I would have not felt the pressure to do what small town conservative boys do, ie, go to college, get married, raise a family, etc.frogger444https://www.blogger.com/profile/17331588375651883882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722472542404525075.post-69830162419888638032011-12-01T16:08:03.578-06:002011-12-01T16:08:03.578-06:00I often wonder how gay am I, really, but I'd s...I often wonder how gay am I, really, but I'd say that I was more gay than straight, not just 50 / 50. It is probably the same for you, but when I read your list, you seem pretty gay to me.<br /><br />Point #4 "never been in love with another man" is probably just a question of availability. If you were single and Mr. Perfect came along, I've no doubt you are capable of falling in love with him.Buddy Bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052407067718899985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722472542404525075.post-36772843940065574022011-12-01T13:49:30.176-06:002011-12-01T13:49:30.176-06:00Robert... I always appreciate your perspective. I...Robert... I always appreciate your perspective. If I am not gay, then let's say i'm at 98 on a scale of 1-100. I have only had one real relationship with a woman. I have completely explored the man to man sex thing. It would make some gay men look like prudes. <br /><br />Thanks for the well wishes. I am not talking much to her about my life issues, but we are getting along fine in life at the moment. One day at a time.Not Alonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10482405719386603047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722472542404525075.post-51926606676281175122011-12-01T13:09:52.890-06:002011-12-01T13:09:52.890-06:00Yo bro!! I think I have said this before. I don&...Yo bro!! I think I have said this before. I don't think you are gay. Gay men do not get married, have sex, and have kids. As a gay man, I am an expert on this. There is an absence of any desire to be sexual with a woman however beautiful we believe women to be (and I do appreciate the beauty of the female form).<br /><br />That said, you are clearly somewhere in the middles of the Kinsey scale in the area many identify themselves as "bisexual" (whether you would feel that term applies to you, I do not know.)<br /><br />It appears that you have sensationalized in your mind male/male relationships. I suspect that if you experienced them more that they would not be so tempting as "forbidden fruit." However, you do have a wife, and your marriage is something important. Exploring your same-sex sexuality may not be a viable option if you are trying to keep your marriage intact.<br /><br />I hope you and your wife are continuing to build bridges with each other, and that communication is getting better.Roberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01971598850180370407noreply@blogger.com