We are also going through the imminent death of my father in law. He is my wife's rock, and that is going to be a real hard transition. We all need each other now.
We are still going to a therapist and that is helping. I think we are talking more, and our unconventional reality is becoming our reality.
I'm happy with things right now. I'm happiest that we made it to this point and I'm okay with staying as it is. In the past I always thought I would be ready to leave her when my daughter left home. But it just feels right.
Love to all.