Post Nuptual Meeting with Attorney

Well my wife has been nudged to get an appointment with the lawyer next week.  Her dad's illness has got her off of dead center.

I wanted her to make this contact. She has the name of the lawyer she wants to use, and I thought it needed to be her deal.  Basically, all we need to do is have an agreement that anything that comes from her family is hers, and anything that comes from my family is mine if we get divorced.  That it will not be split 50-50.

I think this will precipitate her parents giving her the house we live in and the farm around it.  Just like my parents have already given me all the land that is mine.

It will be a good move, and I feel good about it.  I think it will remove the financial pressure if a divorce occurs.  There are still many things in the house that would need to be split, but that will be much easier.

There are also retirement accounts and other financial assets, but all of those were added since the marriage, so those are easy to split and valuate.

Last post about this.

I'd love to hear your thoughts.

Post Nuptual Agreement

Okay.  I'm not a lawyer.  I have a healthy respect for them.  But I'm scared to death to talk with a lawyer about what my wife wants to talk to them about. 

Background:  Both our parents have nice amount of assets.  Upon their death we will both get a nice nest egg.  It is inevitable.  Our parents (both) have talked about giving us the assets early, and since my wife's parents know about me, they are stressed about doing it.  So my wife has hinted many times about going to the lawyer (my father in laws) to do the work.

Basically, we have agreed that if her parents give her something, if we end up divorced, those assets will go to her.  And Visa Versa.  I don't have a problem with it, except for one exception, and that is our home is owned by her parents.  We have put our resources into it, so I feel I should get some cash out of it.  Not a substantial amount, but something.

She said last night we need to do this in two weeks, her dad has a new lawyer, and he needs to get this taken care of.  I am only going to tell her that she needs to set up the appointment.  I don't know the name of the lawyer, and am not going to ask her dad for the name.

Her parents have been very passive during this whole thing, and have always been wonderful to us.  And I understand their concern. 

I'm nervous about this one, I want to go into it with my eyes wide open, and in some respects, this is taking care of the financial part of a divorce, before a divorce ever happens. I just don't want to take this one up the ole ass with out protection. It is just going to be stressful, and I HATE stress.   I have a pit in my stomach just writing this.  I guess it is better face it now than latter, and then I can get rid of the pit.  I'm such a damn procrastinator because I don't like confrontation. 

Hmmmmm do you think that has anything to do with why I'm in the closet still.......