Well my wife has been nudged to get an appointment with the lawyer next week. Her dad's illness has got her off of dead center.
I wanted her to make this contact. She has the name of the lawyer she wants to use, and I thought it needed to be her deal. Basically, all we need to do is have an agreement that anything that comes from her family is hers, and anything that comes from my family is mine if we get divorced. That it will not be split 50-50.
I think this will precipitate her parents giving her the house we live in and the farm around it. Just like my parents have already given me all the land that is mine.
It will be a good move, and I feel good about it. I think it will remove the financial pressure if a divorce occurs. There are still many things in the house that would need to be split, but that will be much easier.
There are also retirement accounts and other financial assets, but all of those were added since the marriage, so those are easy to split and valuate.
Last post about this.
I'd love to hear your thoughts.