Stay up late on computer

During my hay day of cruising and hooking up, I would stay up late on the computer watching porn and cruising adds as  my wife slept. Last night, my wife went to be early and I stayed up late.  I was on the computer, but I was actually doing book work.  I didn't even check my private e-mail or cruise sites.

Part of the reason is that I work from home, and do it during the day, but the other thing, I know that my wife would be really worried if I was up late, and I wanted to be "clean".

I do try to be very considerate of what will set off triggers for her, and late night on the computer is one of them.  I recently bought a new TV for the basement, but I don't feel like I can go down there and watch TV without her, because she may think I'm up to something.  She has this habit of going to the bedroom to watch TV early, and I hate to go to the bedroom unless it is for sleep or sex. So I tell her this, and sit in the other room to watch TV.

Other news.  I think we are going to start eating better.  I need to loose about 25 lbs.  Last time was on the low carb diet, but my wife wants to try just healthier.  We will see how it works.  My only worry is that I will feel more comfortable with my body, and be more likely to show it off and hook up.  I guess we will see if I can loose the weight first, then we will worry about the next problem.

Peace!

Confusing as Hell

I'll tell you. As soon as I have this figured out, something comes along, and changes my mind. I'm in a pretty happy spot right now, but I can tell my wife is stressed beyond belief. She will say things like "I'm about to break." and "I need to find a good place.". We both are gaining weight, and I'm sure part of it is she is not happy.

I keep saying I'm good with where I'm at. I am but I don't want to be the one that is keeping her in an unhappy place. Also my father in law was just diagnosed with a form of cancer. Chemo should take care of it, but he takes care of so much for us. I think this is putting so much more pressure on her. Her parents are her rock! Remember, they know about me.

I had a 15 or 20 minute talk with an acquaintance today. In the day we used to fuck around with a group of guys, He had been married for 30 years had four kids, and was a preacher. He is now retired and gave me some good advice.

The biggest take home is I sm not going to change. I knew that, but I think my wife needs to know it. I have come to realize that maybe we need a plan. An exit plan if you will.

I also talked about the coming out process with my friend. I told my wife I want to live like I am. And not as a gay man. But aft we taked, I think that may be fine for a while, but I think I will have to actually tell the people I am closest with that I am gay.


Not live a big fat gay life. Just a life, and by the way, I'm gay.

Freeballing

Just the other day a fellow blogger was talking about freeballing.  I really never called it that.  I've always heard it called comando.  Maybe that is the midwestern term for it.  Well....... 

Today is my day to freeball all day!!!!!!!!!!

My family is gone for most of the day, and i'm not getting out of my lounge pants.  May not even take a shower.  I LOVE these days........

And I love to look at freeballers.