I started on that spiral of the hook up, when the Internet started to be available to all. I started on chat lines, and moved to phone, and then to the real thing. Technology has been easier and easier as it went along. No wonder my wife hates technology. I can't speak for all married men, but the ones that I have talked to turn to random hook ups because they are easy to get out of. There is now emotion, just immediate needs are met. I did have some buddies, but we eventually became friends and not "buddies". If you know what I mean. I got my need met and would not have any expectations afterwards.
The other thing that attracted me to a random thing is the adrenaline rush. The rush of the hunt, the rush of the unexpected, the rush of the newness. You knew at the end of the encounter what to expect. I have always felt pretty safe with the people I have found as well. I think maybe only once I thought, "Get me the hell out of here." But for the most part very respectful and safe.
Short today. More later. Thanks if you are reading.